Complaining can drain all the happiness out of your life. When you spend your time finding fault with everything you become dissatisfied with anything that crosses your path. Constant complaining creates a negative mentality that leads to discontent and inner misery. Avoid these feelings whenever possible.
If you are unsatisfied with life, make it your priority to change some things! Turn things around and use what you are unhappy with as an opportunity to set a goal that will bring you joy instead
Change negative thoughts into positive actions with these tactics to tackle complaining:
- Challenge yourself to make things better. If something is really bothering you, make it your goal to fix it! Find the heart of the problem and make the necessary changes.
- Complaining about everything is easy, but fixing it is more difficult.
- For example, say your workout trainer is always late meeting you at the gym. Instead of complaining about it, make some difficult changes. Find another trainer. Sometimes tough love is the best choice you can make!
- Look for the positive in the situation. Compulsive complainers usually have a hard time finding the positive in a situation. You can become so focused on the negative that you overlook the positive aspects.
- Dig below the surface and take the time to find that “diamond in the rough.”
- Do you find yourself complaining that you’ve not gotten a raise at work? Recognize that you’re fortunate to have a job and can pay your bills again this month.
- Practice being content. For the next couple of weeks make contentment your goal. Being content can diminish your urge to complain.
- We all can find something to complain about. However, you’ll only bring your spirit down by constant complaining. Instead, try thinking of all the blessings in your life and be content and grateful for them. If you’re in great health try feeling content with that.
- Request feedback. Constant complaining usually means you’re feeling unhappy. Often looking inward is the best way to locate the source of your misery. Ask your friends and family to give you honest feedback about yourself. Be prepared to hear what they have to say.
- Are you surprised that your loved ones don’t find you a pleasure to be around and think of you as miserable?
The reality of a complainer is that you often find so many faults with everyone in the world that you make others around you uncomfortable.
Take the feedback for face value and use it to make effective changes in your life.
As a newly reformed complainer, you’ll realize that there’s plenty for you to change. The good news is that you’re already setting positive goals. Make the changes needed to turn your world from gloomy and dim to sunny and bright.